Day 1: And so it begins...

And so it begins!

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When I first started out as a coach I was told that I was my best marketing tool. That I need to get in front of people, speak to people, speak in front of people. For some reason I have resisted it.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind being in front of an audience, I don’t have the common fear about public speaking, or singing in public, I have the understandable nerves, rush of adrenalin, but I don’t dread it.  So you would think I’d do a lot of it.

I have ‘gone live’ on Facebook and Periscope and You Tube even, yet although I’m pretty transparent and sometimes vulnerable in a measured sort of way I don’t think I really show who I am. Nor do I show what I can do as a coach who supports people who are going through their midlife transition, (or crisis or re-invention) and the challenges that come with it.

Those of you that have been following me for a while will remember that last year I did a 50-day challenge to try something I have never done before each day for 50 days. (Click here to read it).  The idea behind that was to establish a blog which I did, to challenge the voice in me that kept saying I shouldn’t even start because I won’t be able to sustain a blog, but I did and I completed the series with a bang.

A couple of months later I realised the project was about a lot more than me writing a blog series. I had found a new confidence and reconnected with the extravert in me – to a certain extent.

So before I start on this new project I thought it might be worth going back one last time to reflect on why the project succeeded.

Because I took action. I found something I wanted to do (which was to start a blog) and found a way to achieve it. More than that though:

·        I was committed to the project. Mainly because it was something I really wanted to do and partly because I was open about it, declaring it to all my friends and family

·        Once I made the commitment I was consistent. I did an activity each day, wrote a piece and posted it before the end of the day and (apart from once when I forgot to post the written piece. I woke up at 4am and posted). This bit was easy because I knew people were reading the post and didn’t want to let them down

·        I got a lot of support and encouragement from the readers which made me courageous and able to try things that I would never have done just for myself

But because I was writing it up in a blog and because people were entertained by my posts, I was also able to approach it with a light-hearted spirit and not take myself or the project too seriously and that’s the approach that I’d like to repeat. There are times when I’m stressing myself out for something I have or have not achieved, and I remind myself that if I wanted that stress I could go and get a job. Instead I want to be doing something that I enjoy in a way I enjoy it. Yes, it will be hard work sometimes and yes, it will be challenging, but challenging can also be fun – can’t it?

Unlike the Mark One version, I won’t necessarily be looking to do something I’ve never done before each day, but I will be doing a number of things I find uncomfortable and possibly for the first time.

50 Days is a long time, but from past experience it goes quite quickly so I’d better get on with it.

And so it begins …


I would really appreciate your support and encouragement by commenting. If you have any ideas about how I can do something better then I will be happy to hear them. Share the posts if they resonate or if you know of anyone who can relate.

Do you want to embark on a project of your own? It could be for 5 days or 21 days or 30 days. If yes then why not join my Facebook Group Every Day for 50 Days where you can get tips and ideas about how to move through your challenge.


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